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Beware Of The Green Monster


Life is one big road with lots of signs. So when you riding through the ruts, don’t complicate your mind. Flee from hate, mischief and jealousy. Don’t bury your thoughts, put your vision to reality. Wake Up and Live! ~Bob Marley

When it rears its ugly head, there is no stopping it. It is what I call, “The Green Monster.” What is a girl to do? You want to do right, but it can be very overpowering and at times can not be controlled. I am a woman with trust issues I must admit. It has been this way since I was a young adult. I know that the man I married loves me and will move mountains for me. When you feel this thing, this monster that gets inside your head. It is like you are temporarily possessed by thoughts and scenarios that are not true! You become accusatory, and before you know it, you are interrogating the man you love.  I am here to say, STOP IT RIGHT NOW! It will hurt you in the long run.

Self Discovery: Think about how you came to be this way. In my family, there was infidelity done by my father. I witnessed my mother look the other way, and she always would tell us, “I stayed in the marriage because of you, my children.” I felt a lot of guilt and in retrospect, as a child growing up I should not have inherited this type of burden. I loved my father, but I hated that he was not faithful to my mother. Hence, I believe it’s where it all began.

Self Recovery: Find the root of this evil and pluck it, before it ruins you and your relationship. I know I have received a lot of support from friends and family in the past. I have spent time searching within, and it is different for everyone that has experienced this. If it becomes out of control beyond family and friends, then seek additional support.  Destroy ” The Green Monster,” once and for all!

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True Dreams Past and Present


Every great dream begins with a dreamer. Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world. ~Harriet Tubman

I did not have an idea what my future would bring growing up. I had many dreams back then, but the dreams I had were very high on my ambition scale. My parents did the best with what they had. We were a family of four, my dad worked a lot, and my mom stayed at home to take care of us, but my story is not about my upbringing, it’s about discovering our real dreams. I left my parents direct to my married home.

Now, fast forward to the present. I am in my late fifties, have adult children, I am a grandmother and married to the same guy for over thirty years. What can I say, he is my best friend, my confidant and the guy I go out with every Saturday night. He works away from home these days, and I find myself with a lot of alone time.

I had an epiphany, and it became apparent that I never ventured out on my own. How did I get here and how do I move forward from here? As a young person I had so many aspirations; going away to college, becoming a famous singer and traveling abroad to become an artist.  I married my guy, and we started a family, everything that I dreamt of achieving was placed on a shelve.

Years later, I graduated from college, I did not become a famous singer nor did I become an artist but what I did discover were new passions. I have a love for picture-taking and a love for writing aside from having a full-time job.

Isn’t it funny how many dreams flock through a young person mind? I believe that it is a necessity for the development of self-worth and individual identity.

I look forward to exploring the possibilities through discovery by taking it one day at a time. Food for thought.

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