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Holiday


Holiday

My heart is full 
if not for the planning.
It would not be a good landing.
Holiday

Is  festive,
majestic, and 
will convince the skeptic.  
Holiday  

Where the family will cheer, and 
will make memories to last all year.

 


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Good Prevails Over Evil


It looks like Vice-President Biden will be our new president. Good prevails over evil. Trump will not kindly go into the night, but you know what? I hope those who are watching will see him for his true self.

How can President Trump blame our citizens that invest their time in our democracy by making allegations of not following the process? I was in disbelief, and his actions from that podium were dangerous yesterday. It wasn’t comforting! 

I pray that moving forward, we can rebuild, renew, and work towards battling this pandemic by taking charge!

I am not fooling myself. I worry that things will get scary once Vice-President Biden is declared President-Elect. 

I believe that, for the most part, the people of the United States want to get back to some normalcy, not chaos. 

I want unity, not division! God Bless! 


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My Fellow Humans


Can we stop fighting over who is going to win tomorrow? We are human first and foremost; our humanity is at stake. Regardless of the outcome, we need a leader that will get us out of this crisis, the COVID crisis, and the racial crisis. It needs to stop! 

We are in trouble, and if things don’t change? Ask yourselves what this world will be like in the future for our children and grandchildren. I see the bigger picture, and it is disastrous if a shift for the greater good does not occur.  We are doomed!

I sound desperate, and we all should be in a desperate state! 

Tomorrow is the day. Who will it be, Trump vs. Biden? However, your vote? We will live with it for the rest of our lives. 

This election is the most important one. Our lives depend on it, literally! 


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What is in a Nickname?


Do you ever wonder what is in a nickname? Some may say it is a term of endearment, and others may use it as a form of control or insult. I used a nickname as a way to rebel from my given name. 

As a child, I did not like my name, so I rebelled, creating a nickname. I was named after my grandmother, Caridad. The English translation is Charity. I should have gone by Charity, but instead, I wound up with so many nicknames that, to date, many family and friends refer to them; Carilyn, Carolyn, and Carol. 

Since then, I have accepted my name Caridad but what do you do when you are stuck with these alternate nicknames? It is not easy. I have tried alerting my family and friends I no longer go by these names. Their response, “I am used to calling you by these nicknames,” and they refer to these names as terms of endearment. What began as my rebellion has turned into terms of endearment?

Over time I stuck to my ideals, and I no longer use these nicknames, but ever so often, a relative will slip and use one of my old names, but I don’t fuss. It is a habit, but many have adjusted to calling me by my given name. My life lesson? I continue with my given name. I don’t sweat it when someone in my family slips and revert to using a nickname. I keep going!


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Don’t be part of a Telenovela


I want to begin with a question. How does gossip in the workplace start? One never knows who to trust and whom to confide in, in a work environment. On a personal note? My rule is to avoid becoming part of a Telenovela. It does not matter the length of time at your job; it is all the same. Gossip is gossip! Honestly, I have been pulled into the web of gossip, and I am here to say that it does not end well. 

I want to list a few things to keep as a reminder of what not to do.

1. Avoid Venting: The chances are that you will become peeved at something at one time or another. The automatic response is to unleash your frustration to a co-worker, not realizing that it can be used against you or taken out of context or worse. If you don’t want your personal stuff to circulate in the office, keep it to yourself. 

2. Avoid Triggers: Many times, someone will tell you. “I am going to tell something, but you can not repeat it.” That is your cue to pivot to something else. Chances are you don’t need to know whatever they want to tell you. Use the following mantra, “it is not their story to tell or yours!” This will not happen overnight. It takes practice over time. 

3. Don’t get sucked in: Don’t let the audience be you. You don’t have to be rude; gently excuse yourself or say you have a time-sensitive work assignment. 

4. Trust: If someone entrusts something in confidence. Don’t repeat it. Keep it in a mental safe deposit box in your head. It is not an easy task to do but with time; you can master the skill and avoid being part of a Telenovela. 

Good luck!


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Grateful!


As I sit on my back porch doing my work remotely. I look out to gaze at the vast trees in my backyard overlooking the nature reserve as the sun hits the leaves. My mom is sunbathing, she too, gazes at the wonder of nature. We are truly grateful to be part of such wonder. Many of us overlook the small things such as the sun, the air, and the outdoors’. 

It is tranquil, despite the nearby Gateway airport’s noise with helicopters and small airplanes flying overhead—the sounds of lawns being mowed, and every so often cars passing by. I continue to be grateful. You may be asking, what is my point? My response? Please don’t overlook the everyday things; take it all in and smell the flowers, the trees, and the freshly cut lawns. 

Live for today, be grateful and remember tomorrow is not promised. Make your mark or like in the movie Titanic, “make it count!”


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Rant Against Hate!


I reflect on what is going on in this world. Have we lost it? It seems that everything I read is about hating over one thing or another. I, for one, rather side on the common good, not hate or evil. 

Whether it is political or a critic of some sort, people can be ruthless, not mindful of fellow humans. How about connecting for the greater good, to help, to assist, or to lend an ear. 

Every time I hear about the violence, protest, and haters commenting, taring someone apart over a topic or opinion breaks my heart. 

I know that this pandemic has not made it easy for many of us and the violence and the presidential election coming up in November. 

I don’t recognize the US. We need a solution. I air on the side of humans, not politics! We can agree to disagree. 


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Equal Humans


In watching the documentary about Ruth Bader Ginsburg, she was badass! She fought for us. If it were not for her, where would we be? I wanted to honor her with an original poem.

Equal Humans

We, as women, began in an
uneven playing field to men,
Ruth was our warrior,
challenger for our rights.
Equal Humans

Her soft-spoken voice, not a physical fighter but
equipped readily with her skilled weapons of knowledge.
She fought and won many battles!
Equal Humans

Don't let her small stature fool you. She was a powerhouse of strength. She was our superhero!
Ruth laid the grown work for us to emerge from
the shadows of the past.
Equal Humans

Ruth Bader Ginsburg forever remembered with
respect and admiration. You led the way and laid the foundation for us.
God Bless and Rest in Heaven!


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A Living Resume


Imagine wearing a multitude of hats in a history of jobs. That is what I call a living resume; a diverse background worked many positions. You would think that many will seek you out and hire you, but with approaching the age of 62, a question arises, am I marketable?

I love my job at the courthouse. The primaries just passed, we have a new clerk, and he plans on reassessing and reinventing the clerks’ office.

I invested eight years of my life; I love what I do, and to be perfectly honest, I don’t have the desire to start over someplace else, but if I had to, I would.

The following are my past employment: HR Business Analyst ( current ); HR Administrative Assistant; HR Administrative Aide; Special Projects Administrative Aide; Special Projects Administrator ( demoted from this position due to budget cuts); Elder Affairs Cares Assessor ( it was not a good fit); Pharmaceutical Recruiter; Treatment Coordinator; Targeted Case Manager; General Manager. And adding to that lineup is my educational history: I have a Bachelor’s in Business Administration, a minor in Human Resources, and an Associates in Community Mental Health, and there you have it.

There is no solution for this situation except being realistic, be proactive and look for work by dusting off my resume, and prepare myself. I will keep you all posted.

Thank you!


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My Bucket List


For those that are thinking of creating a bucket list, don’t put it off. It may surprise you what goes on the ongoing plan. Avoid a due date because it is a continuous list.

I have been contemplating creating one for years, and today I decided to put it out there for everyone to see, and in hopes that I will get excellent feedback.

To give you a backdrop on this writer, me, of course. I am a creature of habit. I don’t particularly appreciate going outside of my comfort zone. And worst of all, I suffer from a horrible case of stage fright, but I have a deep desire within my heart. I may complete my list or may not, who knows! Trying is better than not trying at all. Wouldn’t you agree?

Here goes my bucket list:


1. A girls’ trip with my daughter and my granddaughter. Nowhere unique, but it must be memorable and remembered with love.

2. Traveling abroad: I have traveled to many places like London, Mexico, the Cayman Islands, and Cuba. It is just a fraction of what I would like to accomplish, like visiting Spain, Australia, Ireland, and Canada, to name a few.

3. Singing in front of an audience: So, here is the optimum test. I sing online, and I done Karaoke in front of family and friends, but I want to sing in front of an audience, one song, one night. Don’t worry. I don’t have delusions of grandeur of becoming famous. Remembering back to my community college days, I was approached by a fellow student, she was in my voice class. A local band was looking for a singer and she suggested I do a demo, but I bailed due to fear. I guess this desire is stemming from that memory—the “what if” syndrome.

4. I love to do more blogging I love it, but need guidance on how to improve traffic to my page.

5. Hot Air Ballooning: It is a little intimidating, going high up and all, but I imagine it will be exciting!

There you have it! These are only the highlighted desires on my bucket list. I welcome your thoughts. Thank you!