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My Holiday Letter 2016


The year 2016 brought forth many challenges, and the lessons learned were pretty difficult, but we came through it, a stronger and a more united family. I want to share a few highlights of our year.

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Our nephew, David died at age 34 in his sleep, a person with diabetes and was not on any medication. He was a kind soul, left behind three children and worked hard to get his life back on the right track just before he died. It is never easy losing someone so young.

The Pulse Tragedy

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I watched the news in horror seeing victims carried out of the Pulse Night Club. An armed gunman entered the club opened fire with an assault weapon. My mind began to recall that our son JP frequented that club. Chills came over me thinking that JP was in that club, so I quickly started to text him, “ JP I need to hear from you as soon as you get my text.” Thank God, he responded, and that is when he told me about the death of his friends. He said that earlier that evening his friends spent time with him on a visit before going to the Pulse Night Club; they invited him along, but JP had a commitment with another friend going out for a birthday celebration. He later told me that he almost canceled with his friend to go with Drew and Juan. I was emotionally distraught thinking about all the lives lost in the name of hate and the realization of how close I came to losing my son. It was difficult for us and for many attending the funerals and the vigils; it was heart wrenching.

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Baby News

fb_img_1480284147011I became a Grand Aunt of two beautiful baby boys; Asa Caden of my niece Kisha, dad Glen and Michael Frangel of my niece Amanda, dad Frangel Anthony born within days

of each other. Wishing you all many blessings in the years to come.

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Growing Pains

Jayda, my beautiful granddaughter, turned 14. Where did the time go? It was just the other day I witnessed you being born. She is becoming quite a young lady, and we are so proud of her.

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The Election

The Presidential Election cycle was down and dirty. John’s fellow opponents used every dirty, disgusting trick in the book to discredit and malign him to no avail. As his wife, I was determined to stand firm against the evil doers, and if they are reading this? Beware!  God does not like ugly! He won the election, sworn in and is to begin his second term as a Florida State House of Representative for District 43 in Osceola County!

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Thanksgiving Eve Crisis

The day before Thanksgiving as I was about to cross the street I stepped down on the curb, OH MY GOD! Suddenly I hear a popping noise behind my right knee with tears welling up in my eyes as the pain was unbearable. My co-worker had to help me to my car; I thank God she was with me. I kept thinking, how am I going to drive home in this condition? By the grace of God, I was able to drive home by using my driving foot alternate with my non-driving foot. I was definitely in survival mode. My doctor informed me the injury might be a torn meniscus, an MRI scan completed and the results are pending. Wishing for a positive outcome.

Marriage News

Josh and Mary tie the knot. Wishing them many blessings as they embark on their marital journey. Always remember to love, laugh and talk it through no matter how difficult the situation.

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Life Lessons

My takeaways of the season are not to take those around you for granted, honor family, stay connected and show love, compassion, and caring whenever possible.

From our family to yours Happy Holidays!

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Celebration of Love 35 Years


A wedding anniversary is the celebration of love, trust, partnership, tolerance and tenacity. The order varies for any given year.~ Paul Sweeney

Our anniversary weddingTime passes by so quickly that before you know it you are older, wiser and if you are one of the lucky ones?  You get to marry the love of your life, your soulmate, and best friend all rolled up in one person. It is hard to believe that on September 10, 2016, we will celebrate 35 years of wedded bliss.

What began as a night out with my girlfriends turned into a beautiful evening with a handsome young man. I did not have any intentions of meeting anyone on that night of February 23, 1980. When our eyes met, I felt that special spark that many take a lifetime to achieve. We danced, we talked, and when it was time to go home you gave me your number without expectations. Can you believe I still have the sign language card with your number? Who would have thought!

Years later, we have a loving family with two adult children and a beautiful granddaughter. We were not without challenges, trials, heartache but we got through it. If asked, “what is your secret to a successful marriage?” My response? You have to talk it out, have an open mind, experience lots of laughter, be forgiving and have each other’s back no matter what comes along!

Happy 35th my husband!

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A Mother’s Day Tribute


Mother’s Day is a time to reflect, a time to remember and honor all moms. I wanted to share a little something, and I am sure that it will touch your heart. 

As I think of you on Mother’s Day. Memories of you come through with a heart full of love and kindness in abundance.

Your spoken words always reached the deepest depth of my soul.

Because of you Mom, I am a person with good values and a person that truly loves those close to her heart.

Mom, my love for you is unwavering, ongoing throughout the span of time.

Happy Mother’s Day!

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Beware Of The Green Monster


Life is one big road with lots of signs. So when you riding through the ruts, don’t complicate your mind. Flee from hate, mischief and jealousy. Don’t bury your thoughts, put your vision to reality. Wake Up and Live! ~Bob Marley

When it rears its ugly head, there is no stopping it. It is what I call, “The Green Monster.” What is a girl to do? You want to do right, but it can be very overpowering and at times can not be controlled. I am a woman with trust issues I must admit. It has been this way since I was a young adult. I know that the man I married loves me and will move mountains for me. When you feel this thing, this monster that gets inside your head. It is like you are temporarily possessed by thoughts and scenarios that are not true! You become accusatory, and before you know it, you are interrogating the man you love.  I am here to say, STOP IT RIGHT NOW! It will hurt you in the long run.

Self Discovery: Think about how you came to be this way. In my family, there was infidelity done by my father. I witnessed my mother look the other way, and she always would tell us, “I stayed in the marriage because of you, my children.” I felt a lot of guilt and in retrospect, as a child growing up I should not have inherited this type of burden. I loved my father, but I hated that he was not faithful to my mother. Hence, I believe it’s where it all began.

Self Recovery: Find the root of this evil and pluck it, before it ruins you and your relationship. I know I have received a lot of support from friends and family in the past. I have spent time searching within, and it is different for everyone that has experienced this. If it becomes out of control beyond family and friends, then seek additional support.  Destroy ” The Green Monster,” once and for all!

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True Dreams Past and Present


Every great dream begins with a dreamer. Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world. ~Harriet Tubman

I did not have an idea what my future would bring growing up. I had many dreams back then, but the dreams I had were very high on my ambition scale. My parents did the best with what they had. We were a family of four, my dad worked a lot, and my mom stayed at home to take care of us, but my story is not about my upbringing, it’s about discovering our real dreams. I left my parents direct to my married home.

Now, fast forward to the present. I am in my late fifties, have adult children, I am a grandmother and married to the same guy for over thirty years. What can I say, he is my best friend, my confidant and the guy I go out with every Saturday night. He works away from home these days, and I find myself with a lot of alone time.

I had an epiphany, and it became apparent that I never ventured out on my own. How did I get here and how do I move forward from here? As a young person I had so many aspirations; going away to college, becoming a famous singer and traveling abroad to become an artist.  I married my guy, and we started a family, everything that I dreamt of achieving was placed on a shelve.

Years later, I graduated from college, I did not become a famous singer nor did I become an artist but what I did discover were new passions. I have a love for picture-taking and a love for writing aside from having a full-time job.

Isn’t it funny how many dreams flock through a young person mind? I believe that it is a necessity for the development of self-worth and individual identity.

I look forward to exploring the possibilities through discovery by taking it one day at a time. Food for thought.

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Stories of My Father: The Engagement Bracelets


My father often spoke of my grandmother’s engagement bracelets. How my grandfather had proposed, and instead of an engagement ring. My grandma received a set of 24 carat gold engagement bracelets.

My grandmother always wore the bracelets, but when she passed away at age 77, they too disappeared. We never knew who in the family got possession of them. A mystery!

Although my father never went into detail of their courtship, he did mention how much my grandfather loved my grandmother and how well he provided for them until his death in 1950. After his death things changed for my grandmother and her life would never be the same again.

As a child hearing these family stories. You could not help but want to know more. Personally, I always had an ongoing curiosity about my family history. Not too long ago I joined Ancestry.com in hopes of piecing together my family’s missing pieces.

I would love to know how my grandparents met.  How long was their courtship? Did my grandfather go to my grandmother’s father for her hand in marriage? How young were they?  It all remains a mystery to this day. My father never mentioned his grandfather, only his grandmother.


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A View of the Autumn Leaves


It's Autumn

As she sits she admires the view of the autumn leaves with their unique colors. She enjoys the peacefulness of her back porch on a chilly brisk morning. Her memory travels back to the way things were in the beginning. She finds herself missing his caresses, his gentle touch and the sound of his voice and the way it soothed her to a great calm.

On many occasions, Charisima has voiced her feelings, but her concerns are not being heard. He is oblivious! Does he think that things will continue as they have been? The relationship is traveling in the direction of a downward spiral of despair.

Their children are grown now with their own lives to live.  Her hope, her love for him is unwavering.