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Coping with Alzheimer’s


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I recently found myself soul-searching within the very depths of my being. Caring for a person with a severe illness is taxing, to say the least, but when you are the caregiver, it becomes something totally different. At times, it becomes gravely overwhelming, if not careful you will find yourself sucked into the depression, the isolation of it with no escape. Having a great support system is key to your survival and keeping your sanity.   

My mother-in-law is a loving person, she is slipping away day by day and there is nothing I can do to fix her. Yes, I have said it, fix her! She is stricken with Alzheimer’s. She is living with us, my mother too lives with us and is helping. My mom is my strongest support. I am blessed to have her. 

The situation has shifted towards the stage where my mother-in-law sleeps all the time,  losses large blocks of time, and she refuses to shower causing me to have to assist her. When she sits to eat at our kitchen table. I find myself observing her, and thinking, where does she go when she drifts off in thought?  Is it a specific memory? Is she aware what is happening to her? It is a horrible disease! 

When I think back to the last six months. Ma was living in the community, independently, renting her own apartment managing her everyday life until Hurricane Irma hit, inundating her apartment, and changing her life for forever.  The trauma of losing her apartment sped her illness forward to severe. She went from being a very active individual to someone who needs total daily assistance.

I treasure her lucid moments and sense of humor when it shines through. She remembers her past with such detail and sometimes shares such painful memories that I would prefer those memories to have been erased from her memory, but unfortunately, the memories continue to surface from time to time.

To our sweet lady, we will continue to care for you, love you dearly and cherish your every moment for as long as you are with us.

 

 

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My Holiday Message 2017


Looking forward to the new year 2018 I must admit that 2017 was the year of crisis, challenges, and awakenings of what is to come. How do I begin to speak about this year without sounding sad or disgruntled? Instead, I must bring forth hope and instill it in my heart at all cost.

Awakenings

I had my surgery for a torn meniscus, recovering at home when all hell broke loose in Washington with a new president, lack of inaugural attendance, the women protest and the new catch phrase, ” fake news” was on the rise. I was laid up in bed recovering from my surgery and watching it all unravel in the media. The women protest was visible with a sea of pink throughout the land,  so I got inspired to crochet a pink pooty hat for myself, but I will not say what it is actually called. Get the picture?

Health Scare

My husband and I had to undergo a heart catheter procedure to rule out possible blockage and hardening of the arteries. I am happy to report that we both came through it with no abnormalities. What a blessing!

Hurricane Crisis

We were hit with two major hurricanes Irma and Maria. My husband and I planned a cruise to Cuba and it so happens that hurricane Irma was on her way, what madness but it was an interesting adventure!

Reality Strikes: Losing all of your possessions due to a hurricane is devastating. That is what happened to some of my relatives when Irma and Maria hit the mainland, and Puerto Rico. The Virgin Islands and the rest of the Caribbean were also hit.

Dealing with a loved one diagnosed with Alzheimer’s is a real heartbreak, seeing someone who was active, independent in the community drift further into the disease after this massive hurricane. My mother in law lost her apartment and her independence. She has some good days and many bad ones but we continue to love her and guide her. She is living with us now and we strive to cope one day at a time.

Marriage News

My two nieces, Olga Esther and Maggie tied the knot, one in April and the other in July. They both looked beautiful on their wedding day. Wishing them both lots of happiness and many blessings in the future.

Baby News

When life gives us struggles, look for the blessings and celebrate.  We welcomed two newborns into our family this year. Two of our nieces blessed us with two grandnephews, Amir Emmanuel born in December to parents Kisha and Glen and Ariah Nicole born in July to parents Olga Esther and Andersin.

Life Lessons

I have shared the good, the bad and the ugly with no pun intended. We must welcome each day as a gift because you don’t know how long you will have it. Count each blessing as it comes and learns from the things that are not so pleasant in your life.

Happy New Year! 

 


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Your Success is Straight Ahead


Where am I going?

I look here, look there and everywhere.

I see the road ahead and I still do not know where I am supposed to go.

Many say, map it out!

Some say, plan it out!

Others say, know your destination!

Like the sound of a train making that choo-choo sound.

The smells of that smokey steam engine that permeate the air.

It passes by and I still have no clue!

There are days where things get out of hand.

And there are days where the focus is relentless.

Like taking a bite out of a favorite dessert, Yum!

But no matter where the destination?

Just know that your success is straight ahead.

Keep going, keep going and do not stop!

 


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Recovery is a Bitch!


Recovering from surgery can be a bitch. It has been three months since I underwent arthroscopic knee surgery for a torn meniscus. Two weeks before my incident I had knee symptoms with pain and discomfort.  I could not figure out the source or the cause.

Incident: The day before Thanksgiving as I was leaving work, talking with my co-worker. I stepped down from the curb and all of a sudden I felt a popping from behind my right knee. The pain was so excruciating, my tears appeared, and the expression on my face was heartbreaking as described later by my coworker, Cindy. What comes to my mind was the horrific pain, OMG!!! She helped me to my car and all the while thinking how was I going to drive home?  I propped myself inside the car, my coworker, Cindy says to me, ” take your time before turning on the car.” She offered to stay with me but I told her I would be okay, but deep down inside I was terrified. I finally got the courage to start the car, every stop light I alternated with my left foot. I tried my best not to think about the pain. I got home safely, but my husband had to assist me out of the car.

Recovery: I stayed at home in recovery for two weeks after my surgery.  I could have used the allotted time given of my Family Medical Leave, but I decided to return to work. Some days are more challenging than others, but my focus is to be well.

Life Lesson: Embrace each day, no matter what the challenge…food for thought.


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A Necessary Evil


“How we respond to something is just as important—if not more important—than our initial reaction.”
Michael Thomas Sunnarborg, The White Box Club Handbook: Simple Tools For Career Transition

In many organizations, there are times where you have a decrease in the overall budgets and decisions made by the powers that be which are a necessary evil specifically when it comes to reducing the workforce. I always compare employment to marriage, you have a honeymoon, an adjustment period, and unfortunately for some, there is a separation or a divorce. Your employment is much like a marriage; no one wants to leave, but for much involved it is necessary.

My heart goes out to those dismissed from employment.  Just know that for every door closed, one opens. The time is now to strategize, to reorganize and come up with a plan B. You may be asking yourselves, what now? You have bills, food is needed and a family that depends on you.

While you adjust to the reality of your situation, don’t dismay! Things to consider:

  1. File unemployment
  2. Give yourself time to let it sink in if you are able.
  3. Update your resume
  4. Stay informed
  5. Prepare yourself to begin job searching
If you received a severance packet, it would assist you while you are looking for new employment. Many resources will provide a benefit and will land you in the next chapter of your life. Best of Luck!

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Termination


Managers tend to treat organizations as if they are infinitely plastic.
They hire and fire, merge, downsize,
terminate programs,
add capacities.
But there are limits to the shifts that organizations can absorb.
– Kevin Kelly

There are multiple methods of termination, it is what you, the employer will follow that will determine the outcome. As an employer, you have the authority and a responsibility to conduct business promptly from onboarding to retirement.

Termination is psychologically painful and detrimental, but when the act is performed entirely in an unprofessional manner, then it is a problem! It is a task to be conducted with all involved to adhere to the same protocol starting from the very top, down to the very bottom of the employment chain. It sickens me when I witness an employee about to be terminated, and they are made to sit for an extended period in anticipation and not knowing what their outcome is to be. Tell me! Is that fair? By doing this, you are showing them that they are disposable, and didn’t matter regardless of the services they provided or the years invested in the organization!

I am an HR professional, and I can honestly say what happened was inexcusable with lots of sprinkles of unprofessionalism. I sat with this employee as she waited and waited. When it came time for the powers that be to meet with the individual? The task took well over a lengthy span of time.

Termination of an employee is not pleasant and is never a smooth process but following the proper procedure should be seamless to be carried out without a hitch, with no glitches, and staff must be ready at all cost!

Give the employee the dignity and the respect to exit employment once they leave their job life. Food for Thought!


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My Holiday Letter 2016


The year 2016 brought forth many challenges, and the lessons learned were pretty difficult, but we came through it, a stronger and a more united family. I want to share a few highlights of our year.

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Our nephew, David died at age 34 in his sleep, a person with diabetes and was not on any medication. He was a kind soul, left behind three children and worked hard to get his life back on the right track just before he died. It is never easy losing someone so young.

The Pulse Tragedy

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I watched the news in horror seeing victims carried out of the Pulse Night Club. An armed gunman entered the club opened fire with an assault weapon. My mind began to recall that our son JP frequented that club. Chills came over me thinking that JP was in that club, so I quickly started to text him, “ JP I need to hear from you as soon as you get my text.” Thank God, he responded, and that is when he told me about the death of his friends. He said that earlier that evening his friends spent time with him on a visit before going to the Pulse Night Club; they invited him along, but JP had a commitment with another friend going out for a birthday celebration. He later told me that he almost canceled with his friend to go with Drew and Juan. I was emotionally distraught thinking about all the lives lost in the name of hate and the realization of how close I came to losing my son. It was difficult for us and for many attending the funerals and the vigils; it was heart wrenching.

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Baby News

fb_img_1480284147011I became a Grand Aunt of two beautiful baby boys; Asa Caden of my niece Kisha, dad Glen and Michael Frangel of my niece Amanda, dad Frangel Anthony born within days

of each other. Wishing you all many blessings in the years to come.

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Growing Pains

Jayda, my beautiful granddaughter, turned 14. Where did the time go? It was just the other day I witnessed you being born. She is becoming quite a young lady, and we are so proud of her.

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The Election

The Presidential Election cycle was down and dirty. John’s fellow opponents used every dirty, disgusting trick in the book to discredit and malign him to no avail. As his wife, I was determined to stand firm against the evil doers, and if they are reading this? Beware!  God does not like ugly! He won the election, sworn in and is to begin his second term as a Florida State House of Representative for District 43 in Osceola County!

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Thanksgiving Eve Crisis

The day before Thanksgiving as I was about to cross the street I stepped down on the curb, OH MY GOD! Suddenly I hear a popping noise behind my right knee with tears welling up in my eyes as the pain was unbearable. My co-worker had to help me to my car; I thank God she was with me. I kept thinking, how am I going to drive home in this condition? By the grace of God, I was able to drive home by using my driving foot alternate with my non-driving foot. I was definitely in survival mode. My doctor informed me the injury might be a torn meniscus, an MRI scan completed and the results are pending. Wishing for a positive outcome.

Marriage News

Josh and Mary tie the knot. Wishing them many blessings as they embark on their marital journey. Always remember to love, laugh and talk it through no matter how difficult the situation.

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Life Lessons

My takeaways of the season are not to take those around you for granted, honor family, stay connected and show love, compassion, and caring whenever possible.

From our family to yours Happy Holidays!

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